2012 is Not for Hiding

by Lindy on December 7, 2011

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Sometimes I like to hide.

When I need an introvert break, I hide from my kids. When I’m feeling overwhelmed by Saturday chores, I hide in my bed. When I want to ignore responsibility, I hide in my iPad. When I want to hide from a client, I hide them in my voicemail.

I had a friend who coined a term to describe this sort of thing.

She called it Avoidance Therapy.

Sometimes I hide from my debts.

Or at least, I hide them.

Deep in the recesses of this blog I hide them, I tuck them away in the middle of the file cabinet, or hide them in an online account that my only my husband can access.

A few weeks ago I told you about the time I did a 6 month spending fast, and after writing that post I remembered another part of the story.  While I was so focused on saving for my goal, by happenstance my income went up at the same time.

Bonus after bonus came in as if I was hardly trying. I used to sit at my desk and tally it all up on a post-it note, giddy at the thought of earning more, and it came so easily.

Maybe it was luck. Maybe it was being at the right place at the right time. Maybe it was fate. But maybe it was focus.

Whatever it was, hiding from my goals isn’t the answer.

So in 2012, my debts shall hide no more.

Trio of Debt as of 12-2011

I may put them in funny hats, but I won’t hide from them.

Though they may sting to look at, though they may be embarrassing, though conquering them may feel like scaling a tall wall, though it may take many years, though it may seem illogical to care about paying them off, I will not hide from them.

They are my new focus.

PS: If you’re new here, you can read more about our debts (and why they wear fuzzy slippers) here and here.

What are you NOT hiding from next year?

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  • I need to stop hiding mine also. I just try not to think about them, but obviously that is not good.

    • Lindy

      They are easy to be out of site out of mind. But I think they’ll be gone faster if they are front and center. Like looking at a pile of laundry in the middle of the floor until you can’t take it anymore.

  • You guys don’t have a mortgage Lindy? This year will be focusing on the mortgage for me I think. That’s the last hurdle I want to jump and just make it go away already.

    • Lindy

      Oh yes, we do, but I’m focusing on one thing at a time. Mortgage is last for us too. Plus, our house is grossly underwater, so I can’t say I’m in a hurry to throw real money at it just yet.

  • Good for you for taking control of your debts!

  • I’m not hiding from my communication so that I can be a better husband! Or hiding from my debt.

  • Gulp…this is kind of hard…I’m an introvert too and shining a light on my hidden debt, well, it just won’t do, it won’t do at all!
    So, let’s just say that IF I went to PEI a couple of years ago and IF I bought a house out there while still living and paying for my house here in Ontario then that MIGHT be a debt I’m pretending doesn’t really exist because hey, I don’t even LIVE in PEI so why would I do something THAT stupid?? Nope, not me!

    • Lindy

      I agree (IF you did that), debts that live in other towns don’t count. :P

  • Less than a hundred grand in debt? You can slay it. Start with that nasty little bugger on the left.

    • Lindy

      Yeah, he’ll be a gonner soon enough (and thanks for the vote of confidence).

  • Oooohhh….excellent post! Well, in 2012, I am not hiding from myself! This past November, I participated in the “No Restaurants on November” challenge (via the Enemy of Debt blog), to see if I could really for the whole month without eating outside my home, no take out, no I’m-lazy-and-really-don’t-wanna-cook situations. And I proved to myself that I can do it. So…..I am curious about what other challenges I could arise to me….?? Therefore I have designated 2012 the official “Year of Challenges”! How it will work is, each month there will be a new.challenge I set for myself. Money challenges….fitness challenges….social challenges…..ect. I am still in the process is selecting which challenges I will undertake. But check my blog for more info :) No more hiding from myself and what I can truly accomplish when I challenge myself!

    • Lindy

      Sounds like an exciting year. Great ideas!

  • Sorry for typos! Posting via my phone is difficult! Lol

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  • We’re not hiding from our mortgage next year – I’m looking forward to watching you attack and eliminate the nasty things!

  • I’m not going to hide from adding more to savings. I keep attacking the debt and foregoing the savings, but I’m going to need a lot more cash stashed next year!

  • 1) I love the get out of debt trio- very cute!
    After being in the dark over our finances for 6 month because of a corrupted file in Quicken I’m finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. It took so long to resolve (well it’s not actually resolved) partly because of procrastination on my part or as I like to call it now, ‘avoidance therapy’. The good part is we have cut back on our spending there’s not a lot of surprises.

  • I don’t just hide….I RUN. I’m going to try not to hide from my school work until the last second. I always get it done, but in 2012 I’d like to not have it looming over my head until it’s due.

  • Sam

    You are going to do it. It seems scary, but I know you will look back and say “It happened so fast!” The commitment to seeing it GONE works.

  • I’m so proud of you for putting your debts out there. For me, the first step towards getting rid of my debt was letting people know exactly how much I had.

    For 2012, I will not hide from the fact that I am unhappy working in an office. For so long, I’ve hidden my unhappiness because working in an office is what you’re supposed to do as a grown-up. Well, it’s not for me. And I can’t deny that fact any more.

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  • I’m a hider too. Or a personal finance ostrich. Best of luck facing up to your debts. In 2012, I’m going to do the same!

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