1. Rome wasn’t built in a day.
I like to sometimes think I can go from zero to fabulous within 24 hours. That everything I want will just come to me if I make a tiny effort. That I should be farther along in this [project, learning, career, etc.] than I am. And then I pout when I’m not.
Did you know that the Trevi Fountain in Rome took 30 years to build? And there are a ton more fountains with nude dudes in that town.
Be patient. Keep working hard. Keep going forward. You’ll get there, just not overnight.
2. I’m not super-human.
But wouldn’t that be cool?
I may have watched too many episodes of Trading Spaces in my formative years, resulting in my tendency to have unrealistic expectations about what I can accomplish in any given 48 hours.
But the people on Trading Spaces probably didn’t have kids who wanted their sippy cups refilled every 15 minutes. Or five loads of laundry to do either.
I need to learn to focus on one project for any given weekend. Or maybe two. Definitely not ten.
3. One step at a time is the only way.
I have a tendency to see the entire staircase and start hyperventilating.
Instead of focusing on one step at a time, I see the first 10 steps, and then more steps beyond those, and then I think of the steps that I can’t even see yet. And by the end of this mental game I’ve worked myself into a total tizzy, given up any hope for the future, and gotten nothing done in the meantime.
Enter The List. I’ve been trying to embrace it lately. It helps me tame my overwhelmable nature.
Step 1: Make a list
Step 2: Do first item on list
And so-on. Easy, right?
Maybe someday I’ll learn these lessons once and for all.
But until then, I’m a work in progress.